Comments on: Making amends? Ask before you give

By: SoBeSparky

SoBeSparky — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 00:07:38 +0000

Asking me was exactly what the Crowne Plaza in Ft. Myers, FL, did. After waiting 24 hours for them to fix the cable service on the room’s tv, I told them they should not promise what they could not deliver. They agreed, fixed the cable in 10 minutes and asked me what I would like to make amends. I took the extra Priority Club points. Case closed and I was a happy guest.

By: JB

JB — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 22:48:33 +0000

You could have given it to one of the first people you saw in the street and they would not have looked at your teeth.

By: Carrie Charney

Carrie Charney — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 21:47:08 +0000

May the hotel cleaning staff accept gifts like this? I might have left it for the “maid,” along with the usual tip, but I wonder if that would have caused trouble.

By: JandM

JandM — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 17:40:17 +0000

This was not just a gift its the hotel management’s way to ensure a good customer relationship. It is therefore not unreasonable for the management to give an option of gifts. Many people do not drink or there may be dietary reasons the gift is not able to be accepted. Also fresh fruit and dairy can often not be taken into other countries (or states) therefore even if Peter wanted to he could not take the gift home.
When my husband and I stayed in a hotel in Portugal there were was an issue which the hotel wanted to make amends for. We said we would like a local charity to benefit on our behalf. The hotel appreciated this gesture and was glad to make the donation.

By: Peter M. Zollman

Peter M. Zollman — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:04:00 +0000

Wow — what a great (and thoughtful) comment by John. He’s absolutely right (as is Natalie). I wish I had thought to take the gift basket and do exactly as he’d described. Now *I’ve* learned something from the response to my own post. Thanks! And if it ever happens again, I’ll know what to do.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:11:20 +0000

Agree with John. That’s why it’s a gift. You don’t get to specify what you want, it’s the thought that counts, etc. The hotel was just trying to make a gesture and it seems to me like you are over analyzing it just a tad. When I make some baked goods for extended family this holiday season, I don’t think I’d appreciate the comment “wow, you should have taken this money spent on flour and eggs and donated it to a shelter.” If I decide to make a gesture, it’s my choice.

By: John

John — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:42:44 +0000

No, please don’t scare everyone into thinking they have to get your permission to give you a gift. So it wasn’t the most suitable gift for you, didn’t your mother teach you it’s the thought that counts. Besides, the problem of what to do with the gift basket is easily solved. Just pick it up and head for the elevator. I’m sure before you’d even get to the lobby you’d pass I nice young couple you could turn to and say, “The hotel sent me this gift basket that I’m not going to be able to use. Would you like it?” And there, you’ve performed a random act of kindness and brightened someone’s day.